After writing about struggles with dating recently, I thought that I would share a few dating tips to make it easier. These tips are simple, but extremely important.
Tip #1: Be yourself right from the start
From the first date on, you should be confident in being yourself. You shouldn’t try to pretend to be someone else because it will make him go on a date WITH someone completely different… and not YOU. This is what some guys call putting on a “date face.” However, it can be exhausting to fake all of that energy and stress. Why would you put yourself through that?
If you are yourself and can have the difficult conversations at the beginning of a relationship, you will be setting yourself up for a successful relationship. He will know who you are, what you want and vice versa. If it doesn’t go well, you at least were honest.
Tip #2: Know who you are and what you want
Before the first meeting, I require my clients to complete this questionnaire. Answer the questions that you ask yourself, such as What is my purpose. What are my strengths and weaknesses? What are my strengths and weaknesses?
Tip #3: Ask questions that are genuine and show interest
It’s important to ask yourself questions such as What do you want on the date.
Why would you want it? It’s also fascinating. It’s the type of material that creates interesting conversations, makes you want to be with each other and builds a solid foundation for a relationship.
Most people hesitate to ask questions that probe the other person’s character at first. Think of it as an opportunity to learn more about the person you are meeting. All of these questions are valid, whether it’s about the number of siblings he has or his college or work. These are valid questions, but they don’t provide the kind of rich interaction that will make you want to ask him out on a second date. You won’t be able to tell if he is right for you if you do not ask him these deeper questions. It’s unlikely that you will learn about his true character by finding out he was born and raised in Oregon, or his favorite color.
Tip #4: Listen
It is important to combine this tip with the one before. Most guys don’t know how to listen or forget. You can improve your listening skills by knowing what you value and then listening for those values to be reflected to you back when he speaks. Listen for things that you find unacceptable. Listening to what he’s saying will help you determine if his wants match yours.
This also helps you to avoid making assumptions about someone else or jumping to conclusions. It’s also polite.
Tip #5: Improve your relationship knowledge
You’d be amazed at how helpful it is. It’s simple. The first step is to schedule a session of relationship coaching with me. You can also apply the lessons you learn on my blog. You can also search for “gay dating” and read the articles that appear. You can also read a book on gay male relationships. We don’t know everything about gay relationships. Why not learn from people who are experts, thought-leaders, and have been in your shoes before? This can be a fascinating, educational and enlightening experience. You can be more successful when it comes to dating.
Tip #6: Bring your best out
Dress to impress yourself. Select an outfit that will make you feel confident, good and sexy. Wear something that will make you feel good, sexy and confident. You deserve to show off your best. Wear something that makes you feel good. Don’t wear a sloppy outfit on your first date. Wear something that makes you feel good and shows your personality. First impressions matter.
Tip #7: Don’t worry about the result
This is the last one because it’s probably the most difficult to follow. It’s important to be in the present moment, gay cruising. Do not get caught up with what could happen, the direction it will take, or what the end result might be. Accept what is. Listen, show love, communicate and be open. And, most important, enjoy yourself! No matter what happens, the rest will be taken care of.